Why can’t I forget him?

+73 votes
asked Jan 19, 2018 in Relationships by Justine (890 points)
edited Apr 7, 2018
I miss him so much. All I want is to just sit down and cry. I just can’t get him out of my head. I miss having him beside me, talking to me, calling my name and just pat my head. I miss giving a goodbye hug after a lovely date. I can’t hold the urge to text him, I can’t meet him anymore without wanting to cry.  The same thing I do every day and now it just stopped. Why can’t I just forget about him? It feels like I would never feel love ever again. Just a day before it feels like we are everything to each other. Then he just dumped me. Now I’m suffering. Is there anything I could do? I will never get over him.

2 Answers

+11 votes
answered Jun 18, 2018 by Adama (380 points)
edited Nov 24, 2018
Take a deep breath, calm down. I know it’s difficult. Trust me, you will get through this. Forgetting someone seems impossible but do give it time. You are still in love, in love with someone that doesn’t want you anymore. If you truly love, maybe he did it for the best for the two of you. Then again, just dumping you without proper closure makes him a total jerk. Either way, love should not be about pain, it’s about the mutual happiness you can give to each other, it’s about providing for each other while the whole world are against you. Being overly attached to someone who has abandoned you won’t get you anywhere. The first breakup is the worst, since you just don’t know what to do. Give it time. Time can heal even the deepest wound although it can’t heal everything.

Then help yourself. Get rid of anything that will remind you of him, chuck away all those photos, delete those messages. Keep them in storage if you must. The first step is to help yourself physically. Stay away from the places the two of you hold dear. Do not even try to keep in contact with him. You need to remove old memories in order to make new ones, such is the irony of life. Slowly find your old self again, as you discard the you that was with him.
+7 votes
answered Feb 15, 2019 by Suelyn (810 points)
edited Mar 6, 2019 by Kris
Breaking up has never been easy to go through, but rather than struggling with questions such as “why can’t I forget him,” you really should turn to your friend and rely on them. Talk to them, they might have gone through the same thing. Spill out your mind to them, and take in the comfort that someone else cares about you. It’s never easy losing someone you love, there is no simple method. You need to face it. Evading it would only set you back further. Don’t let the sadness defeat you. If you must, then confront him. Get your closure. I won’t recommend it. It might hurt you further. He might not give you the answer you are looking for. Get over the loss, then work it out. Friends and family are the ones that you should lean on now. Seek their help until you are ready. Maybe in time, you can find your next love and felt that bliss once again.
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